I'd like to discuss a problem with you. I'm having trouble believing that you're really trying to learn from your relationship with the Ninth Street Center. Sometimes I wonder if you even believe in the truth or importance of Paul's body of work. You ask so few questions about it and, when you do, you don't seem to follow up on the answers as if you intended to apply his insights to any particular area of your life.

The single insight that you seem to have embraced is the idea that you're masculine. But you didn't need Paul for that, since any Jungian would have known you're an extrovert. Corporate America is riddled right now with gruff, bullying women in power suits who are comfortable with their masculine identity. The Center is not here to give awards to feminine men and masculine women, but to provide a supportive arena of shared psychological sophistication in which people can get beyond celebrating where they're at and find out where their journey has yet to take them.

I wonder if you've had much experience opening up to this psychological dimension of social experience. You're very candid about sexual data, such as sleeping with your masculine friend Lee, but when Bill asked you to describe the dynamics of this relationship you were unable or unwilling to respond. A few sessions back, after an angry outburst about how much I talk, you were unable to come up with any explanation at all for such a negative reaction. Of course I talk a lot, Eve. I have a lot to say.

We welcome people at all levels of development to try to benefit from the Center's services, but naturally it's important that they resist impulses to denigrate or obstruct our work. Do you realize what effect you have when you openly laugh at the opinions of others, such as you did when I said that Kissinger was feminine? When surrounded by conventional, ignorant people, arrogant contempt might be a reasonble tactic to shield yourself from being seduced into a world that is not your own, but when you do this in our chat group I really have to wonder whether you take us very seriously — or your need for new insights, for that matter. Are you there to learn new things, or to throw bombshells and prove how great you already are?

Please stop thinking that everybody wants to put you down like your father did. We'd like to help you. Please let us.

[This is the draft of a letter I never sent.]